Helping someone with anxiety calm his thinking
You will be a more supportive and helpful person if you educate yourself with models anxiety behavioral cognitive which you can do by reading or attending a treatment session with your loved one, but instead you can try to use some of the techniques that may be Useful for people with anxiety; Usually anxious people have a natural bias toward thinking about the worst-case scenarios for their condition and with the goal of helping them gain some views on this topic you can use cognitive therapy technology as you ask them to think of three questions:
- What is the worst that could happen?
- What is the best that could happen?
- What is most realistic or most likely?
So if your loved ones were worried that they were supposed to receive a call from their parents hours ago but they did not, you can suggest that they resort to worse, better, or more likely explanations for not contacting their parents.
Be careful not to completely reassure your loved ones that their fears will not occur and it is useful to emphasize their ability to adapt and deal with them, for example, if they are worried about being subjected to a panic attack on a plane, you can say “This will be very annoying and frightening, but you will deal with it ” And if the person close to you feels anxious because another person is angry with him or feels disappointed because of the person close to you then it will often be useful to remind him that he can choose his own actions and that he is not able to fully control the responses of others.
Support the anxious person but not take over instead of him
“Avoidance” is an essential feature of anxiety, so we may sometimes feel obligated to “help” by doing things that our frustrated loved ones ask, and we unintentionally reinforce their tendency to avoid people. For example if your colleague finds anxiety in the room. Making phone calls is very stressful and you in turn stop doing it for him, they will never try to bypass this avoidance of calls to him.
A good general principle to keep in mind is that support means helping someone in order to be able to help themselves and not do some things for him and that includes actually stopping to do anything yourself; for example, you may attend the first treatment session with Your loved ones, if they make an appointment for them or if they are not sure how to choose a therapist you can think of ways to do it but let them choose.
There may be an exception when a person’s anxiety is accompanied by severe depression; he may not be able to get himself out of bed and then he may be so closed that he will need people temporarily to do everything necessary to help him survive .
Sometimes close people suffer from a disorder anxiety to the point that they are in a state of total survival as well and need more practical help to get things done; however in less extreme circumstances it is preferable to provide support without doing their work for them or exaggerating the return Reassure them.
If someone has a more serious anxiety problem, avoid describing it
What can we do for people with more serious problems? People with things like panic disorder , depression mixed with anxious , and post-traumatic stress or manic thinking (including thoughts related to eating disorders) may be really crazy; you may feel like helping them Something beyond your ability.
You can still be supportive in many ways; when someone suffers from great anxiety, it is helpful for him to reassure him that your general appreciation for him has not changed and that he has not changed in your view; he is still the same person; he only has a temporary problem that has become outside The scope of control is not broken, it has not changed, and you can help this person to the greatest extent possible in order to stay in touch with the positive aspects of his identity by participating in his interests and hobbies as well as encouraging him.
Individuals with problems anxiety is not concerned with chronic change sometimes. For example, you may be friends with someone who suffers from phobia Agoraphobia or an eating disorder but his condition is long-term and stable; in This situation you can be receptive to that person so that he does not feel isolated, and the best strategy here which is a matter of fact about these people is to define their borders without making them feel shy or insist on them in order to become “normal”.
Take care of yourself too
You realize that your goal is to provide help and not treat or relieve the person of his anxiety. Carrying a lot of responsibility is actually a symptom of anxiety so make sure that you do not fall into your trap.
Keep in mind that your support does not need to focus directly on anxiety . For example, exercising exercising is very useful for dealing with anxiety, so perhaps You can simply offer the anxious person a walk or to attend a yoga class together. It’s also good to place some restrictions on your support, as it is likely that a 20-minute conversation to remove stress while walking is helpful (and less stressful) than a two-hour marathon discussion.
It is not always easy to help anyone suffering from anxiety and you may feel that you are making a mistake; but if when you remind yourself that you and the person close to you are doing your best, it may help you to keep things right. It is important to remain compassionate sympathetic and, as the saying goes, put your oxygen mask first; in this way you will have a better field of thinking and clearer vision to know what is going on with the affected people anxious who you love and you will know how you can be a real help to them.